future faking

When it comes to future faking, things just never wind up materializing or they don't follow through with things, or they don't have any real concrete plans of how they are going to get from point A to point B and don't take any of the required steps to get there.

Difference between future faking and genuine future planning : r/NarcissisticAbuse 2026

Future faking is a manipulation tactic employed when a narcissist or toxic person promises to fulfill your desires in the future to get something they want in the present — which is often simply to get off scot-free, delay a commitment, obtain resources, or avoid a conflict. 

Future Faking Is the Manipulation Tactic You Can’t Afford to Miss — Here's What to Look For Melissa Kalt, MD, Recover & Trauma Expert 2025

Future faking essentially means that someone has said that a particular dynamic or relationship menu item will be available or they want to work towards that path, but they don’t actually have the capability or capacity to do that functionally.

Can you explain “future faking” to me? : r/polyamory 2026